Friendships can be a source of unbelievable happiness, comfort, support, and can provide meaning to the lives of their participants – however, they can also be aggravating, soul sucking, and anger inducing. Friendships are a complicated business to say the least. They don’t come with a manual or set of instructions, and unlike romantic relationships there is not typically a life shattering or definitive moment when you know they’re over.
So how do you know?
Here are undeniable 3 signs that point to the inevitable destination of friendship destruction:
One-sided: Do you feel as if you are the only person who makes an effort? Constantly trying to make plans or get in contact with someone who could not care less is a definite sign of disinterest on their part. Or are you the disinterested friend? Either way, indifference on either side signals that the friendship is burning out.
Dread: When you know you have to hang out or talk to your friend are you filled with a sense of dread? Are you wondering how on earth you are going to put up with their annoying behaviour for one more second? This pretty much indicates the end is near. When someone is driving you absolutely crazy, it is safe to say it’s probably time to cut the cord
Too Critical: Ouch, your friend doesn’t seem to hold back their opinions of you, and they’re not exactly nice or constructive. Maybe they criticize they way you dress, your personality, your life choices, etc. And after a while it starts to take a toll. Being friends with someone who criticizes you constantly can wreak some major havoc on your self-esteem, and shows that they clearly don’t respect you. Not really true friend material.
Now this isn’t to say that some friendships aren’t salvageable or worth saving. There are definitely some gems out there worth fighting for. But if your friendship is suffering from any of the afflictions listed above, it’s probably time to do some evaluating to determine how important said friendship is to you.
Is it worth it to waste your precious time with a friend who is actually kind of the bane of your existence? Food for thought. If only life was as simple as facebook, aka defriending someone with the click of a button. Too bad going to school and getting financial aid was this easy.